Scared ya huh???
It is funny when the older generation says you should have more kids when you are clutching your infant to you.
We are in Maryland this weekend and we have been told that 2 kids is not enough. My dear hubby reminds people that we have, or I have hecka big kids. What compares to my 1 kids is 2 of theirs. And the next could equal 3 or their kids....at 5 pounds each.
The funny thing is, I say I want more, but as Waseem reminds me, each kid takes such a toll on a woman's body. He sees it with his mom. 9 kids and your body (without GREAT genes and surgery) is never going to be the same. Joints, muscles, skin, shape etc. And that is with 5lb kids.
I would love to have another, not anytime soon of course since Deen is only 8 months. But in a year or 2 maybe. But then you have the worry, and Drs have said this that the next could easily be 13-15 pounds. That is like triplets, that is hard on a body, and I am a small person.
My family is absolutely against me having another. They worry big time that I will have worse nerve pain and pack pain that won't go away next time with the months of physical therapy I have done. Waseem says the same thing. But from the taking care of them once they are here point of view. Another girl and that is another shaadi, either way, it is another college education and activities and etc, etc, etc.
So what is left. Adoption? Waseem and I both say sure. I would love to adopt. I just wonder how other people will treat my child. Would I have to stop associating with some family and friends because they cannot treat that child the same as my biological ones. Cause I would kick their A** if that happened.
So hmmm. When Deenie is 1 or 1.5, maybe I will revisit this topic. At the moment, baby needs Dudu, and only Mamma has the right touch. ;)
3 comments:
Um Another Kid! I think you will almost always here someone say "oh yeah have 1 or 2 more, we did! But you are right , things are different and now and babies cost money until they are 18 or 25 (depending if they go to grad school or get marrie or both). At the end of the day, they can say whatever, but they don't have to care of the children you do. Do what is best or what works for you and Waseem, everyone will be alright. If not, tell them you kiss your azz and " you will f! up the couch" like rick james did to charlie murhphy's couch ( funny).
I know think about sometimes having a 3rd and for time is ticking, I will be 35 next year, don't want to be too old to start trying and then there is daycare - ouch!
well i was about to leave a comment but musa is biting my toe to get my attention so bye...
Another kid? You know what..if that's what you want, go for it...will it be tough? Yes...but if you want it badly enough, at least you can be comfortable knowing that, while it's tough on you, your kids turn out healthy and strong mA! And if you don't want another, don't do it! - I am planning for two right now (though the desi number is typically higher) and I'm standing firm on that. I am sure that, the second our daughter is born (iA), the aunties will start asking if I'm pregnant again (so tactful), but eventually they'll believe that I really am happy with two healthy happy children (iA).
Adoption is an option for us too...to be honest, i just wish it was easier. I personally would love to adopt a child from Pakistan, but that seems to be easier said than done unfortunately.
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