I have not blogged recently, cause I am feeling a little overwhelmed with stuff I need to do and stuff I want to do.
The Needs: normal...wash the TONS of clothes that seems to be generated between the 4 of us, figure out dinner (which I hate to figure out and cook for everyones specific tastes), vaccum, clean bathrooms...this is why I don't need a huge house. I hate to clean and ***k dusting.
And the wants: write, write, write; spend more time with Safah--my girl needs mommy time seperate from my errands (and there are always errands), not having to ask people to do things they should know to do already (we know that includes so many people--adults and children alike), house shopping (making sure everyone, including me is happy in a budget that we can afford.---difficult when not everyone is flexible, also not easy when my brother has just bought a 7 bedroom, three floor, three car garage, theater room, two bonus room two kitchen (the other is the basement apartment my dad will use). It is basically THE house, with THE basement in-law apartment that my mom would want.----no pressure. So now it is much harder for her to settle on less...with this blaring in her and our face. UGH.
I need a person to clean for me. Like just every 2 weeks and I can maintain and do the laundry, but that means I go back to work.
And I want to, even PT so that we can afford more house, and I have adult conversation and extra cash for my accessories...this girl gotta have her shoes and bags. Or full-time, but then I need someone to come in to watch Deen while Waseem works, even for a few hours. Cause I just don't want Deen in Daycare until he is like 2 or 3, and I just have to have someone watching the person who watches my kid. Plus I guess they would have to watch Safah too during her breaks from school, so that Waseem can work without too much distraction.
Plus IA I want to get my Masters. I don't want too much do I? ECU has a good program. I don't know, I see myself at such a crossroads, but I am spinning around in a circle like a dervish on Mountain Dew (the yellow piss drink...hehe).
Anyway, have I mentioned that I hate house shopping. It is beyond annoying to search and talk and search and drive around and look and think and talk and such. I have actually seen a few houses I like, but they have not hit the mark with the other adults....Ughhh.
I'm out.
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Masters..writing..time with the kids..cooking..cleaning..time for yourself..and adult interaction -- what a list! That being said, my list is a little different, but probably just as long. Here's what I think is important -- don't let go of the list! As long as you're working towards your goals, you'll be there before you know it!
I have to comment on the cooking piece -- it is so overrated!! I make food for Shaan daily, but, these days, I either 1) eat at my mom's 2) warm up leftovers or 3) make something quick for myself. I blame it on the pregnancy, but the reality is, i don't want to spend the time I could be spending with Shaan in the kitchen cooking...and on the weekends, same thing -- I'd rather just spend time with Zakir and Shaan. Cooking, schmooking...unless you love it, no reason to do it just to appease the masses.
Hi, thanks for the invite to your blog! Sister Girl, you have a lot going on, but you know what I agree w/Sheeza - cooking can be overrated. I know it's your nature maybe to cook for everyone so everyone is happy, but at the end of the day, are you happy, did you have a chance to do anything you wanted to do for that day, plus you are at home w/ "Deenie Weenie, Butter Beenie, his name is Deenie" (ok I had to sing that) ! Perhaps you can talk to the adults of the household and see if you all can split up the cooking per week, so you are not responsible every single night or you can be like ok" if anyone does not want to cook, then you can order out". Eventually the $ to order out adds up and then maybe someone will start cooking outside of yourself. I know I try to cook the night before sometimes or buy quick meals (making sure I get all basic food groups for the girls) and let it go! Quick meals save time and the thought have to spend time thinking about it will change.
Far as the house thing, try not to let this pressure you, but I know it's hard because everybody wants everything w/in a certain budget. And you trying to make sure you, your mom and hubbie happy. Situations like this - someone is not going to get what they want, especially if you are trying to stay w/ in certain $. That's when compromising comes in, but you have to get there 1st! That in itself is hard!
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